On Saturday, we had a full anatomy ultrasound. This was the first time we’d gotten a look at the baby since 10 weeks and the week we found out the sex.
So we invited our families – Gabe’s mom and sister and my parents and two sisters – to come along with us. It was really great having them there. We met at our apartment first for some hot chocolate and muffins and I had sort of a “spy”theme going so everyone could choose whether they thought we had a Nancy Drew or a Hardy Boy. We caravaned over to the doctors office and waited patiently.
This might be a good time for me to say I love my doctor and the whole staff at CWCC, so if you need an OBGYN in Houston check them out. This visit was only the ultrasound, so we all went straight back to the room. The ultrasound tech measured a ton of stuff but it wasn’t long before we got a very clear realization that it was a boy. I was so surprised, I really thought it was going to be a girl, but we are definitely having a son!
It was also crazy to see how much the little guy has grown – he looked like a large lima bean last time and now he was moving around and had arms and legs, moved his mouth a bit, we even got a look at his aorta. It was really cool to see.
I’m about 18 and a half weeks at this point , and i just keep thinking about how surprised I am that we’re almost halfway there!
The baby is about the size of a sweet potato, from head to rump. It’s still faint but getting stronger, but I am sure now that I’m feeling movement. It was hard to tell at first, but it’s becoming a little more obvious. The heartbeat has been strong and above 140 every time I’ve gone to the doctor.
I haven’t had an ultrasound since week 10 and we have just 2 weeks til the next one where we find out the sex. I’m really excited but honestly, just to make sure everything is okay and the baby hasn’t decided to like sprout extra arms or anything.
I had a couple of weeks where I didn’t feel so great, but that’s passed an overall things are going pretty smoothly. So far every thing has come out looking good. I took a glucose test on Tuesday and that came back normal, which was a huge relief.
Baby Bump Update:
I was having some self esteem issues but my baby beer gut has developed a bit into what I think looks like a real baby bump. I’ve actually lost 2.5 pounds so it’s all in my head.
I know that you can’t get a great view of the bump in the picture above, but I liked this angle so I’m going with it. This dress from Old Navy is my new favorite thing. It’s soft and comfortable and flattering and very versatile. They have it in 2 colors and I wish that had it in 10 – I’d buy them all.
I think my cravings are more subtle at this point, but all things fall and winter. I mentioned my spaghetti squash, and then on Sunday I needed to make sweet potatoes. So I made a casserole from scratch – and I wanted both pecans and marshmallows. The whole 9 yards. It was totally worth it.
We still haven’t bought a tun of baby stuff, but we did buy our first case of diapers (with some awesome coupon codes) and I felt like this was a big milestone.
I’m also telling more and more people at work. We even (attempted) to show my announcement video at a meeting this past week!
I feel like I’ve a lot more about spaghetti squash this fall and I really wanted to try and make some. I didn’t want to cook it like spaghetti though – I know a lot of people just cook it and top with marinara. I felt like going in to something that looked like pasta but wasn’t might not go over well for me, and definitely not for Gabe. So I found this recipe and gave it a go.
- One spaghetti squash
- Bacon – at least 5 or 6 pieces but you can use more if you love bacon (we used turkey bacon)
- Parmesan Cheese
- Salt and Pepper
That it’s. Super simple right?
The hardest part is cutting the squash. You’ll need a very sharp knife. Cut the part with the stem off, and then slowly cut it down the middle. Scoop out the seeds, sprinkle them with salt and pepper and place them cut side down on a baking sheet. Then you roast it at 375 degrees for 30 or 40 minutes. You can tell it’s done if you can poke a knife in them without much resistance.
You can let the squash cool while you cook the bacon. The original recipe calls for cooking the garlic with the bacon, but we buy a little jar of roasted garlic for things like this, and just used that. I added a little more salt and pepper, cut the bacon into bite sized pieces and then tossed in the cheese. And then stirred, and then added more bacon and more cheese.
It was really good! It’s hard getting Gabe to get into a “healthy” meal, but he really enjoyed it. It makes more than enough for two people. I’d also suggest serving it with some bread.
[I wrote the opening sentences of the post like 5 times before I decided – let’s just jump into it.]
I was diagnosed with endometriosis when I was a teenager, and had two surgeries around that before I was 17. Fast forward to a few years ago, and my doctor told me that if I wanted to have kids, I needed to start thinking about it. That whole adventure is really its own story, but an important intro for this, I think.
When I realized I needed to start thinking about whether I wanted kids, I took that to heart. The thinking part. I honestly think a lot of people just sort of go along with it. “Oh, when I have kids one day…”. It’s just something you say or assume you’ll do. Not that thought doesn’t go into to it, but it does seem to be an assumption of something that will happen, that everyone wants to happen. Or, some people just know. It’s never even a question. But I really don’t believe in making a major decision without thinking about the alternatives, and having a kid was no different.
While of course I know plenty of people with kids of varying age, I’m also lucky enough to have several women in my life who are child free (by choice). They all have their differences, of course. Some are single, some are married. Older than me, closer to my age. Women with strong careers, women with lots of hobbies. But they are all very dynamic, funny, and great people.
In all the conversations of mommy wars and having it all, nothing is like having real people who have just opted for a variety of different life choice when it comes to have kids. It made the idea of choices tangible – I could have a kid, I could not, I could adopt or not. I could have one in my twenties or wait however long I wanted. (I’m also lucky enough to know several moms who started “later in life”). All of these were options for me, and I had great examples of happiness for each. No stereotypes or horror stories of barren women crying over a bassinet or putting an adopted child on a plane to Russia. Everyone’s life is a little different, and there are so many ways to rock that. And let me tell you, these women are totally rocking that.
So when I thought about having a child, I didn’t just start with thinking about when. I really started from the ground up. What would life look like without one? With one? A baby? A teenager? And being able to visualize all the paths my life might take really made me feel solid in the choice we decided on.
Obviously we ultimately decided we wanted a baby, but I’m happy to have had all these different examples of families to think about. And I like knowing that my child will also know that there are so many ways to live their life.
I have family in the Boston area, so I try to make it up there once a year. We spend most of the time with family and not site seeing (though we’ve seen most of the major attractions in Boston). We actually went over a month ago and I haven’t posted about yet. I don’t know where the time goes!
Our day trip into the city included Copley Square an d Fanueil Hall. I also really wanted to go to the Isabella Stewart Gardner museum, but all the walking took a bigger toll on me than I thought.
It will make me sounds like a total nerd, but honestly the Boston Public Library was a great stop. I hadn’t been inside before, and it was really a beautiful building.
The place has been around since the 1800s so the architecture and décor is really beautiful. We just wandered around and ran into a room with books from Europe dating back to the 1200s, and a room of books and memorabilia entirely donated to Joan of Arc.
Really the whole place looks like what you see in a movie.
From the library we walked across the street to Trinity Church. Again, we’d been to the outside but last time we were there they had a service so we couldn’t go in.
I don’t have any pictures from the inside of the church because at first they wanted $7 a person to go in, and I’ve never paid to go into a church and didn’t think I was about to start. But they told us you could go in a pray for free as long as we didn’t take any photos. It’s worth a look inside, they also have a crazy huge organ in the back.
Fanueil Hall and Quincy Market is a pretty standard tourist stop, I think, but there’s a lot to see and a good place to pick up some souvenirs. We did do some more exploring and ended up a park ranger type guy telling us more about the history of the building, so that was new.
If you’ve never been to Boston, I’d really recommend just walking the freedom trail. We did a little bit of that before heading back to my grandparents house.
We also went apple picking ( I mean, apple picking in the fall in New England? Total bucket list moment) and played some old arcade games in Salem.
Food is a seriously important part of every tip too. You probably know to try to clam chowder when you visit, and that’s spot on. My list also includes a solid roast beef sandwich, and Chinese food. I don’t know what’s different about the Chinese food, honestly, but the roast beef is not something I’ve found down here. It’s rare-ish and sliced very thin, and usually comes with some sort of sauce. So good.
It’s always hard to leave though.