Our Next Big Thing

Gabe and I have started the process to adopt a child from CPS care.

Yup. Big news.

It’s also why I wanted to start this again – I started searching for something, another blog that outlined what the process looked like maybe. It was really hard to find. So that’s what I want this to be. A document of the process, and what it looks like for us. I can’t say I’m an expert, obviously, or even that our¬†experience is “normal” but I do want to document what I can.

We’re working with Depelchin, and at the time I’m writing this we’re still really early on in the process. So far we’ve:

  • Attended the orientation/info session
    • This might seem small but it’s a required first step. And, really helpful to understand what’s needed. I (kind of on accident) went to s session on private infant adoption, and there’s a huge difference in the way each of them is done.
  • Turned in our application
    • It was 25 pages long.
    • Along with the application you turn in copies of your license and social security card, floor plan of your house, photo of every room in the house plus the yard, a current photo of everyone in the house, copies of your auto insurance, driving record, paystubs for the last 60 days and your bank statement for the last 60 days.
    • Whew
    • So, that alone could take people quite a while to get together.
  • Had an initial call with Depelchin
    • This was nice, our case manager let us know the application didn’t seem to have any red flags and what our next steps are.
  • Submitted References
    • We each needed 4 references, and they were sent a form to fill out about our parenting capabilities. They’ve all been submitted now!

Next up: Background Checks

 

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Hello. It’s me.

I have something pretty interesting I think I’m going to start writing about, and I decided I needed to a bridge post, because in my last post Oliver was 9 months old. Woah.

Oliver:

He’s almost 3! I keep telling people he’s two and a half but the reality is we’re less than 2 months from his third birthday. If you aren’t a parent this might sound silly, but if you are, you get that I will hold on to every last day of him being 2.

The sleep thing still isn’t great, but he’s a fun and happy kid. It’s hard some days at work, but I’m almost used to it now.

Work:

Since I last posted I got a new job, got laid off from that job, and then found a new job. So it goes.

 

Anyway. Get ready for more posts in the near future, maybe.

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First Ornament

I think I’ve seen the idea floating around Pinterest, but I made an ornament for Oliver’s first Christmas.

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I got the clear ball from Michael’s and then cut the paper that had been at the head of his little hospital bed into strips and dropped them inside. Then I finished it off with his hospital bracelet.

It didn’t take very long to make, but is something that is obviously hugely sentimental. I can’t believe how tiny his little wrist was! And, I had been wondering what to do with that little piece of paper – this feels perfect.

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Oliver – 7 Months

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Well, we’re officially past the 6 month mark. I don’t know why, the halfway to a year mark wasn’t that big of a deal, but this one definitely felt bitter sweet.

The basics

Oliver is clocking in at over 19 pounds (probably closer to 20-21 at this point, actually) and to be honest I can’t quite remember his length. But, he was around the 75% for both, so he’s a pretty chunky monkey.

Milestones

He’s still working on crawling, he can go backwards and do circles like nobody’s business, but we haven’t gotten down the going forward yet. He can stand up, supported. He’s still VERY alert and taking it all in. When I drive him to daycare in the morning I love watching him look out the window because it looks like he’s taking in the whole big world out there.

Eating

We’re doing a combination of solid foods and breast milk. He eats about 3 meals a day. We’ve added in things like mangos, peaches, and green beans to the basics.

Sleeping

Nope. I don’t know what the answer is here. He still wakes up once a night, and I was bringing him into our room and feeding him, then putting him back. But then I started to feel like he was really only eating for comfort and so we tried to get him to go back to sleep without eating but it was really hard. We did it once or twice and it took like an hour, and then once night he cried and cried and so we gave in. So, last night we gave in and just fed him.

I’ve read all the stuff and a lot of it has to do with putting him down for bed, which he’s fine with.

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We dressed him like a chicken for Halloween, which was awesome. We’ve also got his Christmas pictures taken and are just waiting to see the finished product.

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Best Gifts for New Moms

I have two baby showers in a couple of weekends. I’m so excited! I also faced a little dilemma – do I go off of the registry or do I go a little rogue? Maybe a little of both?

I decided to a little round up. Now, I wouldn’t necessarily call these my baby must haves, but things that in those first few weeks/months are great for mom. Some of these might even make good gifts right after the baby is born.

Gifts for New Moms

Hospital “Kit” – it would be great to get/give a little bag with some face wipes, dry shampoo, hair ties, toothpaste, etc. And maybe a little chocolate to boot.

Anything breast feeding related – probably most significantly nipple cream or breast pads. I know that seems like a weird gift, but I would have welcomed it. Actually, I did get an open but almost full box of breast pads and some milk storage bags. Those were great because I didn’t realize how many storage bags I would need.

And, truthfully, I think things like this say “I support your breastfeeding journey. I get it”. And in those early weeks you need that so much!

Shutterfly Gift Card – I used Shutterfly to make a photo book of Oliver’s Birth and birth announcements. I also just ordered some prints off of there. A gift card would be a great way for a new mom to have just regular prints or some cute things shipped to home (so you don’t have to leave).

Pizza/Take Out Gift Card – I got someone a Domino’s gift card as part of their baby gift a while back, and I’m still happy with what a great idea that was. That way, the new parents don’t have to go anywhere! (and yes, meal drops are amazing, but this doesnt hurt!)

Aden + Anais Swaddle Blankets – Okay, these are a little more conventional, but I love them that much. They are perfect for swaddling, and new babies love a good swaddle. Plus, they are adorable without being overly cutesy ( I know, that’s a weird description, but when everything in your life is suddenly so super baby themed it’s nice). And the material is safer than most because it’s very breathable, helping panicky parents feel safe about wrapping the little bundle up like a burrito.

A light weight bath robe – I bought one while I was pregnant and I loved it. I was glad I brought it to the hospital, so I could throw it over my gown, but it’s also nice in those first few weeks too. You can throw it over whatever your wearing if you have company, or put it on at night when you spend hours in that rocking chair – it is easy to get the front open, after all. I bought because I read a suggestion to put it on over your work clothes in the morning when you have a little one, so spills get on that instead of you, but it’s good wayyy before that too.

Things you cannot have enough of – bath wash, wipes, baby socks, bibs. Things that either don’t have a specific size, get used a lot or are used for a long period of time.

Plain onsies and/or zipper PJs – I don’t know why all PJs dont zip. And plain onsies go with everything. There’s no pressure if your kid poops on it. It’s great.