Tonight we have our CPR class, and Thursday is our last in person class! But today, I thought I would write more about the online training and homework we needed to do.
There are three online “courses” that we each had to complete. There isn’t a hard deadline on these other than before everything is finalized, but I wanted to get them done before we started our in-person classes, so that’s the deadline I gave myself. Honestly, they aren’t that time consuming or difficult. Basically you read through a variety of slides on each topic and then take a multiple choice test. You can print everything out so you have a guide while you take the test. They’re also available on the DFPS website so if you want to get a sense of what they’re like, you can:
Those titles pretty much sum up what each training is about. It’s pretty straightforward, no frills and you go at your own pace. Honestly, they seem much more intense than they actually are.
Our first day of classes we were handed a pretty large packet of “Homework”. It isn’t really traditional style homework where it’s based of questions in the class, it’s more of a reflection on your family, parenting and discipline styles and what your family has to offer. In a way there are almost no “wrong” answers (except questions about spanking, that answer is always no). You have until the end of class to turn it in.
Gabe and I have started the process to adopt a child from CPS care.
Yup. Big news.
It’s also why I wanted to start this again – I started searching for something, another blog that outlined what the process looked like maybe. It was really hard to find. So that’s what I want this to be. A document of the process, and what it looks like for us. I can’t say I’m an expert, obviously, or even that our experience is “normal” but I do want to document what I can.
We’re working with Depelchin, and at the time I’m writing this we’re still really early on in the process. So far we’ve:
- Attended the orientation/info session
- This might seem small but it’s a required first step. And, really helpful to understand what’s needed. I (kind of on accident) went to s session on private infant adoption, and there’s a huge difference in the way each of them is done.
- Turned in our application
- It was 25 pages long.
- Along with the application you turn in copies of your license and social security card, floor plan of your house, photo of every room in the house plus the yard, a current photo of everyone in the house, copies of your auto insurance, driving record, paystubs for the last 60 days and your bank statement for the last 60 days.
- So, that alone could take people quite a while to get together.
- Had an initial call with Depelchin
- This was nice, our case manager let us know the application didn’t seem to have any red flags and what our next steps are.
- Submitted References
- We each needed 4 references, and they were sent a form to fill out about our parenting capabilities. They’ve all been submitted now!
Next up: Background Checks
I have something pretty interesting I think I’m going to start writing about, and I decided I needed to a bridge post, because in my last post Oliver was 9 months old. Woah.
He’s almost 3! I keep telling people he’s two and a half but the reality is we’re less than 2 months from his third birthday. If you aren’t a parent this might sound silly, but if you are, you get that I will hold on to every last day of him being 2.
The sleep thing still isn’t great, but he’s a fun and happy kid. It’s hard some days at work, but I’m almost used to it now.
Since I last posted I got a new job, got laid off from that job, and then found a new job. So it goes.
Anyway. Get ready for more posts in the near future, maybe.
I think I’ve seen the idea floating around Pinterest, but I made an ornament for Oliver’s first Christmas.
I got the clear ball from Michael’s and then cut the paper that had been at the head of his little hospital bed into strips and dropped them inside. Then I finished it off with his hospital bracelet.
It didn’t take very long to make, but is something that is obviously hugely sentimental. I can’t believe how tiny his little wrist was! And, I had been wondering what to do with that little piece of paper – this feels perfect.
Well, we’re officially past the 6 month mark. I don’t know why, the halfway to a year mark wasn’t that big of a deal, but this one definitely felt bitter sweet.
Oliver is clocking in at over 19 pounds (probably closer to 20-21 at this point, actually) and to be honest I can’t quite remember his length. But, he was around the 75% for both, so he’s a pretty chunky monkey.
He’s still working on crawling, he can go backwards and do circles like nobody’s business, but we haven’t gotten down the going forward yet. He can stand up, supported. He’s still VERY alert and taking it all in. When I drive him to daycare in the morning I love watching him look out the window because it looks like he’s taking in the whole big world out there.
We’re doing a combination of solid foods and breast milk. He eats about 3 meals a day. We’ve added in things like mangos, peaches, and green beans to the basics.
Nope. I don’t know what the answer is here. He still wakes up once a night, and I was bringing him into our room and feeding him, then putting him back. But then I started to feel like he was really only eating for comfort and so we tried to get him to go back to sleep without eating but it was really hard. We did it once or twice and it took like an hour, and then once night he cried and cried and so we gave in. So, last night we gave in and just fed him.
I’ve read all the stuff and a lot of it has to do with putting him down for bed, which he’s fine with.
We dressed him like a chicken for Halloween, which was awesome. We’ve also got his Christmas pictures taken and are just waiting to see the finished product.