Foster To Adopt Process (in Texas)

I want to start this by saying not only and I not an expert, I’m currently in the process so my understanding of things might change. But I noticed the process FAQs I was seeing were really high level, so I thought I would break it down more, for anyone who is interested in knowing what the process entails.

Orientation – It’s a required first step whether you go through an agency or DFPS. It’s a 2 hour session that goes into what goes into it, the steps, etc. You’ll get the application after this.

Application – the application is long and requires quite a few supporting materials, so expect this to take some time. You’ll need to include:
-Copies of your Driver’s License and Social Security Card
-Floor plan with dimensions of rooms
-Photos of every room inside the house and front/back yard (if you have it)
-Copies of your Auto insurance
-Driving record results
-Pay stubs and bank statements for the last 60 days
The application itself includes a Background Agreement, Health Status Form, and a request for 4 references per parent

Reference and Background Check – we’ve been told this can take up to a couple of weeks, depending on how quickly your references get back and in general how things move. They do email the references, who then fill out a fairly simple form about your ability to parent. The background check includes having to go get finger prints taken and running a formal background check.

Training – this is a big time commitment, so they obviously want to make sure you are a good candidate first. The total training time will be 40 hours, and is a mix of in person classes, homework and online components.

Home Study – I’m so interested to see everything that goes into this, and I’m sure I’ll have a lot of updates. What I know so far: everything above gets wrapped up and then you start the Home Study.

  • We do have a list of additional documents that need to be submitted before the Home Study and includes: copy of birth certificates for everyone in the household, copies of marriage licenses or any divorce decrees, statement from a physician saying you are in good health, copies of pet vaccinations and copies of FBI fingerprint receipt. The good thing about knowing all of this is that you can start getting everything ready – for example, you might need to go get a check up in order to get that letter.
  • A fire and health inspection have to be submitted before the home study

Home Study Committee – Once all requirements are met, all documents received, and your home study is completed your file will go to home study committee for the approval or denial decision

We’ve been told that this entire process from the point our application was received could take anywhere from 90-120 days.

Additional resources:

Adoption FAQs from Depelchin

FAQs from Texas Adoption Resource Exchange

Adopting From Foster Carefta-timeline

 

 

 

Our Next Big Thing

Gabe and I have started the process to adopt a child from CPS care.

Yup. Big news.

It’s also why I wanted to start this again – I started searching for something, another blog that outlined what the process looked like maybe. It was really hard to find. So that’s what I want this to be. A document of the process, and what it looks like for us. I can’t say I’m an expert, obviously, or even that our experience is “normal” but I do want to document what I can.

We’re working with Depelchin, and at the time I’m writing this we’re still really early on in the process. So far we’ve:

  • Attended the orientation/info session
    • This might seem small but it’s a required first step. And, really helpful to understand what’s needed. I (kind of on accident) went to s session on private infant adoption, and there’s a huge difference in the way each of them is done.
  • Turned in our application
    • It was 25 pages long.
    • Along with the application you turn in copies of your license and social security card, floor plan of your house, photo of every room in the house plus the yard, a current photo of everyone in the house, copies of your auto insurance, driving record, paystubs for the last 60 days and your bank statement for the last 60 days.
    • Whew
    • So, that alone could take people quite a while to get together.
  • Had an initial call with Depelchin
    • This was nice, our case manager let us know the application didn’t seem to have any red flags and what our next steps are.
  • Submitted References
    • We each needed 4 references, and they were sent a form to fill out about our parenting capabilities. They’ve all been submitted now!

Next up: Background Checks

 

ALEX (1)

 

Hello. It’s me.

I have something pretty interesting I think I’m going to start writing about, and I decided I needed to a bridge post, because in my last post Oliver was 9 months old. Woah.

Oliver:

He’s almost 3! I keep telling people he’s two and a half but the reality is we’re less than 2 months from his third birthday. If you aren’t a parent this might sound silly, but if you are, you get that I will hold on to every last day of him being 2.

The sleep thing still isn’t great, but he’s a fun and happy kid. It’s hard some days at work, but I’m almost used to it now.

Work:

Since I last posted I got a new job, got laid off from that job, and then found a new job. So it goes.

 

Anyway. Get ready for more posts in the near future, maybe.

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Oliver Scott – 9 Months

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9 months. Every month I’m amazed at his progress, but he’s done a lot between 8 and 9 months. For one, he’s finally crawling. Full speed ahead. He’d been going backward and in circles for a while, and saved the front crawl until he had fully perfected it.

I’m lucky in that I actually got to witness the first crawl. I know as a working parent I won’t be there for every milestone, but I was hope with him for Christmas break and he got up on all fours and took off. He almost immediately after that started pulling up on his knees, so I’m sure pulling to standing won’t be too far off.

He also went on his first plane ride, and was a total champ. He slept the whole time, which was a relief because we were understandably pretty nervous.

He’s also been eating more foods, and lately we’ve been giving him things he can pick up and feed himself. He doesn’t always get them into his mouth, or it takes several tries, but  he really likes it. I’m sensing a bit of an independent spirit.

He weighs 20 pounds and 10 ounces. And nights are still tough, but boy are the days starting to get crazy.

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Holiday Pictures – 2014

It’s not like holiday pictures and cards are part of my normal yearly routine, but this is one of those things that having a baby made it feel like this was a big THING that I couldn’t wait to do.

We had thought about doing some photos outside, but the weather was bad, so we improvised – and I think it turned out great. That’s the other thing, we were on a bit of a time limit once you factor in the ordering the cards and then the time it will take to get them addressed and mailed and..well, you get it.

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I didn’t post any on Facebook or anything, lest it ruin the “magic” moment of people opening their cards (I know, I know – I’m crazy) but I felt like a couple on here would be fine.

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